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Ep225: That Time I Dropped Out of Nursing School (7 tips to stay mentally sane during nursing school)

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Caveat: some people (nurses) might not agree AT ALL with what I say here . . . oh well!  I want to share how it really is to give confidence to those struggling.

We literally get hundreds of emails a day from nursing students.

Sadly, a good portion of them are from students that feel like they should quit nursing school altogether.

Here are just a couple recent quotes from students:

Starting to lose motivation to study.

 

There is sssooooo much information that I don’t know where to begin. I find that often times the instructors are even confused when students ask questions because they are as well versed in the subject matter that they are teaching. Which leaves me to teach myself. Ugh!

 

I gave up after that and lost my motivation to study.

 

I keep falling on my face.

Sound familiar?

My Story . . . (uncensored) When I Quit Nursing School

First Semester Nursing School . . . What I Was Excited
First Semester Nursing School . . . When I Was Excited

I started nursing school with high hopes, but after my fourth semester, I dropped out. I quit nursing school.

I knew nursing school was going to be hard . . . I mean the whole point is to learn how to competently take care of a human being suffering from complex heath issues.

I expected school to be hard.

In fact, I had a meeting with the administration of my program at one point and suggested to them that they had made our program too easy and that we were not learning what we needed to know to be competent nurses on the floor.

I attended an Accelerated BSN program of ABSN designed for working professionals interested in a career change.

Basically, the 4 years of nursing school were condensed into 18 months given that we already had a previous degree (mine in Business Management).

Prior to even starting nursing school I made a promise to myself.

I was going to give 110% and learn everything I could to be the best nurse possible. From day 1 I was spending time in the library every day diving deep into the lecture material. . . .

The result . . . 

  • 1st Semester: 4.0 GPA (the first time in my life I ever got a 4.0)
  • 2nd Semester: 4.0 GPA (one of only two students in my cohort to get a 4.0)

I had one thing on my mind . . . NURSING SCHOOL

Taz Haws
Baby Taz in the NICU

 

At the time my wife had just had our first child . . . Taz.

He was born with a congenital condition that required a two week stay in the NICU and 3 surgeries with subsequent week long hospital stays during the first year of his life.

I will never forget staying up late into the night studying for exams in his hospital room by the light of the Emergency Room signage below then waking up in the early hours with him or going across the street to school and rushing back to baby Taz.

There were times I would bring him up to the school library during his nap time so I could attend a study group while he slept in his stroller.

Life wasn’t easy, but we were happy.

  • We were buried in student debt.
  • We were living on food stamps and WIC.
  • Our newborn was frequently in the hospital for surgeries.
  • We lived deep in the ghetto.
  • I was giving my all (what was left) to becoming a nurse.

The Semester I “Hit My Wall”

Life continued on and I began my 3rd semester.

At this point I was feeling pretty confident that I could take on anything that came at me.

I was wrong.

Things began to build up this semester.  Taz had his final surgery with complications.  We were given a brand new nursing professor that had no business teaching . . . in any capacity . . . ever.  And I really started feeling the pressure.

The professor mentioned above became more and more obtuse with her thinking and was clearly not in the game of educating nursing students but reaping vengeance on some past experience.  She had an utter lack of understanding of education, clinical nursing, and general people skills.

I allowed all of this to weigh on me.

It got to a point that I was completely unable to think about or focus on anything other than the anger and frustration I was feeling.  I wanted nothing to do with this class or this woman yet the anger I felt began to control my life.

That semester I ended with a C in that class.  I lost my motivation.  I hated nursing school and all I could think about was quitting nursing school.

I was ready to forget about nursing altogether.

My wife kept trying to get me to see past my frustrations.  She kept me going at that point.  The next semester I had great professors and experiences, but the drive and motivation were gone.

I was still a good student and loved every minute of clinical but I hated school, my school, so much.  I couldn’t get past the frustration.

The point finally came that I couldn’t help but look outside of nursing for employment.  A job opportunity arose back in Texas (where we were from) and I wanted to jump at it.  My plan was to burn rubber driving out of town and say goodbye to nursing forever.

My wife convinced me to talk with the program and line up a way to “Withdraw” from nursing school rather than quitting.  By doing this I would keep the door open to return to the program within a year and pick up right where I left off.  I had no interest in doing this, but to keep my wife happy I went ahead and did it.  In my mind I was going to quit nursing and nursing school for good and just mark the experience up as another life mistake.

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7 Tips to Stay Mentally Sane During Nursing School

So, right before my final semester (yes, just 10 weeks from graduation) I withdrew from nursing school.

You guys know the rest of the story . . . 1 year after quitting nursing school, I returned to complete my degree.  Ending with a 3.89 overall GPA, landing a spot in a Trauma I ICU, precepting, charging, and starting NRSNG.com, and now reaching literally millions of nurses and nursing students each week.

With that said . . . I want to offer you 7 tips that will help you stay mentally sane during nursing school.

Full disclosure . . . I DID NOT do these things during my program . . . and I nearly went insane and that is why I temporally quit nursing school.

They say hindsight is 20/20 and I feel that had I done these things during my program I might not have hated it so much and actually come out a better person.  I do try to implement these 7 things into my daily life now.

So here is the list: 

  • Avoid becoming uni-dimensional
    • You are more than “just a nurse”.  You are a human with varied interests.  Don’t drop everything when you start nursing school.  Make sure to take time to still be you!  NurseBass is a good example of this . . . he runs his YouTube channel for nursing students and he also focuses a lot of time on fitness and working out.

 

  • Realize that after nursing school is when you begin to learn in exponential leaps.
    • I was stuck on the idea that I had to know EVERYTHING prior to graduating nursing school.  I have since realized that learning becomes massively accelerated AFTER nursing school as you begin working on a floor and become specialized.  I still encourage you to take school seriously and learn all that you can, but give yourself a break . . . you won’t know everything.

 

  • Develop healthy habits (miracle morning, fitness, exercise).
    • This is obvious, but can’t be overstated.  If you are not taking care of yourself . . . your mind and body will become weak.  One thing I have implemented with great success is something called the “Miracle Morning“, essentially, developing an early morning routine that includes some form of journaling, meditation, fitness, and reflection before anyone else wakes up.  Sometimes just a short walk in the morning with your phone off is enough . . . please try it!

 

  • You are NOT your grades (dehypnotize yourself, radical acceptance).
    • Sadly, many students, including myself tie their self worth to their GPA or how many questions it takes them to pass the NCLEX . . . this is sad!  Your grades DO NOT define you . . . do not allow them to control your happiness or how you view yourself.  Two books have really helped me understand this better: Psychocybernetics and Radial Acceptance.  If I could force you to read one non-nursing book . . . it would be Radical Acceptance.  If you have a few bucks download the audio book and listen while driving around town.  The book had me in tears and opened up a new world of accepting myself at a level that I had never achieved previously.  I am confident that had I found this book prior to dropping out of nursing school I would have gotten my RN a year earlier.

 

  • Deep work (set aside focused study time).
    • Deep Work . . . a concept outlined in great detail by Cal Newport in his book by the same title involves allowing youself time to dive into deep mental states and accomplish great tasks by learning to get deep into your work.  Applying this to nursing school, you can learn how to organize your life to allow sessions of deep work into your studies.  One 3 hour deep work session is probably worth more than several unfocused days of meaningless study.  To learn more about the concept . . . listen to this podcast here.

 

  • Find a good friend or start keeping a journal.
    • You have to be able to decompress and share your frustrations openly.  I have been lucky to have my wife through this journey. I haven’t always been very good at listening to her but having a companion, friend, or family member that you can be 100% open and honest with is so key to mental health.  A friend that allows you to share your frustrations unfiltered without judging is essential.  If you do not have this person . . . buy a $0.79 composition book at Wal-Mart and start writing in it. . . just let your feelings flow.

 

  • Life is a journey.
    • Lastly, and most obviously . . . realize that life is a journey.  You don’t have to achieve perfection TODAY . . . you have a lifetime to WORK toward it.  You don’t have to pass the NCLEX tomorrow, you don’t have to get accepted to nursing school THIS semester . . . you have a lifetime.  You are in this for the longhaul.  Relax.

 

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You Should Dropout of Nursing School

I dropped out of nursing school.  And let me be completely honest with you.  I don’t really regret it too much. Nope, I don’t regret that I quit nursing school at all.

My mind was in such a bad place.  I can’t imagine how tainted, angry, and just plain horrible I would have been at my first job had I started working at that point.

After I withdrew I turned nursing off in my brain.  I didn’t think about nursing at all for about 7 months.  I had no plan to return to school.

Then something happened in about February.  At this point I was ready to go back.  After talking to my school I got everything set up to return and complete my final semester.

This time I was hungry, I was excited, I was in a complete different mental state . . . I was motivated and able to face any challenge to make it happen.

So . . . while I don’t really suggest quitting nursing school . . . I will say that in my case I am glad that I did.  It wasn’t the end of the world . . . remember, life is a journey.

Before You Quit Nursing School – Do These Things . . .

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Listen . . . we need more nurses.

Let me rephrase that.

We need more nurses who give a damn!

If you want to quit nursing school, if you hate nursing school (we all do), if you are thinking about dropping out . . . do me a favor:

Start with those 7 things listed above.  How many of those are you doing daily?  Can you do a better job at some of them?

If you feel that you are in a mentally healthy place and have implemented those 7 tips and you still feel that you need to leave your nursing program please work with your school to withdraw in good standing.  This just means that in the crazy chance that you decide to return to school, the door is still open.

Make sure you sit down with your adviser, dean, and whom ever else and clearly understand any stipulations.

For some the only answer may be to distance themselves for a time.  This is a good thing.  It’s okay.  It doesn’t mean you will be a terrible nurse.  Nursing school is NOT real life nursing.

Just keep that door open.  I was inches away from not becoming a nurse myself.

Conclusion

You will never meet anyone that tells you nursing school was the best experience of their life.  It’s not.  It basically sucks. But you can do it.  If you see no other option and you are in a poor mental health state . . . take some time . . . take some distance . . . see if you can relight that fire.

What I want you to get from this post is to understand that we all struggle, we all have dark moments.  Learning how to handle those darkest moments of our lives is what makes us strong.

For me . . . that portion of life was one of my darkest.

I chose to withdraw from school.

I don’t think this is the best option for EVERYONE . . . but for me . . . I have no doubt that it was.

If you get to this dark of a moment and you feel that quitting nursing is the right option.  Please, do it in the right way so that the door is still open.

We need more nurses who give a damn!

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Date Published - Jan 16, 2017
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Jon Haws

Written by Jon Haws

Jon RN CCRN is a critical care nurse at a Level I Trauma center in Dallas, TX. His passions include learning about anatomy and physiology and teaching. When he isn't busting out content for NRSNG.com he loves spending time with his family.

31 Comments

  1. Amy

    Hi Jon, as a nontraditional student, like you, I lasted about 6 weeks into my ADN program before I just crumpled in the reality that is nursing school when you have a family. I didn’t withrdraw, and actually took 2 failing grades because I thought ‘what does it matter?’ Now I’m reassessing and considering a different accelerated program and plan to be candid about my earlier struggles. But it is really expensive and my fears of another repeat failure are haunting me. And my husband, while supportive, said last time “well when you want it bad enough you make it work.” I don’t know how to overcome that kind of mindset.

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  2. Kari M

    I withdrew from Nursing School in 2009 at age 23. Like the author, I just couldn’t cope with some hardships in life, and felt I had to get out. Nobody sat me down and said “hey, what’s wrong, or we can get you a counselor and we will work through this together.” It was a very “alone” decision, and I wish I had had an advocate who knew better than to let me throw my future away. I live with regret from this decision most days. It is now 8 years later. I finished a degree in Biology (nearly useless, but so difficult) and have worked many odd-jobs since. I worked under nurses as a phlebotomist for 1.5 years (many younger than me, and they made 4x my salary..). It has been a very humbling and often degrading 8 years of my life. I now work as a secretary and in a dive shop. To go back to school feels like another mountain and so expensive right now. My husband will support me in whatever I do, but I cannot shake the fact that I feel that I ruined my life 8 years ago and there is just no going back without having to start all over again. I cannot tell you how much I have struggled for money and identity. If you are considering withdrawing from Nursing school, for the love of GOD, I hope somebody cares more about you than I felt cared for at the time when I was 23 and struggling with so many issues. I ended up working as a waitress, moving to Hawai’i, surfing, scuba diving, hiking, and adventuring, but I could have done all of those things as a travel nurse and still been able to afford cheese and a car… Life is a journey, but just know that I pay the consequences and live with the guilt of what I could be by now, and what I am not. DON’T MAKE MY MISTAKE UNLESS YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH COUNSELING. DON’T CLOSE THE DOOR, like the author said. A degree in Biology will NOT get you a job paying more than $10-16/ hr unless you get a second degree or are just plain lucky, whereas nursing will always get you a secure job. I choose to be positive with my life and grateful for what I have, but I do not feel at peace about my decision to withdraw 8 years ago. Peace.

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    • Afraz Mohammed

      Thanks for sharing that with me.. I am in nursing school and I am having a real bad experience because so much things are going on.. Especially my gf email give me alot of worries and no mind of support.. We argued alot and she seem to care only about her self… I just don’t know how to let go and continue my schooling!

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  3. Teneka

    I needed to bump into this blog. I’m currently sitting in psych class as I type this with thoughts of withdrawing today. I realized second semester during mother-baby and med-surg that nursing is not for me. At least not right now. The only two reasons that I’m still here is the time I already put in and the time (1 1/2 semester) left. Academically I’m doing well but mentally I’m sinking. It’s a daily struggle to come to class or study. And the saddest part is I absolutely hate clinicals. Isn’t that the part I should love. I’m highly considering withdrawing now while I still have a B average and would prefer to bow out gracefully vs failing out of the program.

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  4. Brit Beversluis

    Hi Jon,

    My name is Britney, I’m 25 and I started my educational journey back in 2012. I had so much motivation and passion for being a RN. My first two semesters were solely pre-req general courses. Then the fun started. Thinking back now, hind sight is 20-20. I remember my instructors stressing to us how our lives will change drastically once our first semester started. After this program was done we wouldn’t recognize ourselves and that for the next two years we would eat, breath, and sleep nursing. It was extremely intense for an orientation, but it was meant to be that way to potentially weed out any people who had any doubts. For some reason I thought that I could still live life like normal. I married my husband and went on our honeymoon in the middle of my first semester,I passed, but barely and I swore I would buckle down the next semester, and I did. Then I had a tragic loss in my family. My grandmother passed away a month into the semester and it crushed me (she was one of my foundation blocks for support). I crumbled and fell into a deep depression and I lost all my drive and passion. But I had never accomplished anything significant in my life so the only thing I had left to drive me was stubbornness to quit. I would fail our before I gave up. I pushed through that semester after countless meetings with my instructors who told me I could pass but it was going to be a Hail Mary into the end zone. I didn’t make it that semester. I failed one of my classes with less than 0.5%. With the way the program is set up you only get one redo. So I went back the following spring- a year later. I felt better than ever I found my drive and passion again. But on New Years, just two weeks before I restarted school, I got news that was a huge bombshell. My husband and I were expecting. When I saw that positive sign, I cried. I was devastated, I knew this would ruin everything. In a flash I considered the inconsiderable, just so I could finish school, because I knew that if I put school on hold again, due to the policy, I would have to start over from the beginning because the information from the first semester would be out-dated. I felt guilty for many reasons. But I made the decision to finish the semester, I passed. Then third semester started and with just two weeks into the semester I gave birth to my son. The next month was horrible. I fell into horrible post-partum depression, my grades were sinking by the second. But I was up from dawn till dusk studying. I wouldn’t go down without a fight. I would like to say that I was able to push through and I’m only months away from getting my degree, but I thought long and hard and spoke with family, friends and my instructors and had even more self-reflection and came to the choice to withdraw. That was in September 2016, four months ago. I still think about school everyday. “What if..”? “should I go back”? “Is there another way so I don’t have to lose those credits?” But then on the other hand I often ask myself “Do you really want to go back and start over from the beginning?” “Do you really want to be a nurse?” I can’t answer that with a yes yet. I am sorry it took so long to get to the point which is: you mentioned to shut off your brain just forget about it to give yourself a rest. I have had a lot of pressure put on me by myself and others to finish because of never suceedding in anything and seeing it through before. Please, what are some tips to turn off my mind from nursing so if I wanted to go back I can with full force?
    Thanks for taking time to read this,
    Britney Beversluis

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    • Kari M

      In my experience, I still live with the regret 8 years later, with no sign of stopping. If at all possible, I would recommend counseling and talking to your instructor to see if you can still finish. Life with regret will always be harder than a few months of difficulty with the end result being a degree. Once you have that degree, you can always take a few years off. Best of luck, and congratulations on being a Mother.

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  5. Ana

    Hi Jon,
    I loved this article so much because j recently went through something very similar. I am a graduate nurse and started my first nursing job on a PCU unit in October. After my intership was over I was feeling very anxious and scared to be on my own, like TERRIFIED. I thought it was too much to handle as a new nurse and didn’t feel like I could be safe on my own. I spoke to management and I was moved to another unit and I am so happy I did that. At first I felt like a failure, like if I didn’t stay on PCU it meant I was a terrible nurse and would never be great. But I’m taking “baby steps” into my new role as a nurse and I’m happy I listened to my gut.

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  6. Matt

    Great article. Not only was it informative, but it is very well written – easy to read. I am an RN of 8 years who is trying to stay motivated in my RN to MSN coursework. I will continue to read other posts on your blog. Keep up the great work.

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  7. mimi

    wow. I wish I would have found this website and article before. I was in my first semester of nursing school and recently withdrew. I am at a community college and was surprised for a nursing program how I felt it was unorganized and a bit disappointed. The clinical instructor that I had, I too felt that I was being singled out. I thought conversations between us was private but to come to find out, parts of our conversation was “used” against me. At the end of the day, I too have felt defeated, like a failure and “incompetent” when I know that I am not. Is all nursing schools like this? I had nurses in clinical that I learned a lot more than from my clinical instructor who would constantly say she was there for me but in reality was not. I could not do anything right in my instructor’s eyes. I enjoyed my clinicals even though my first day was not the greatest. Do I go back to nursing school? Not sure. Do I go back to the nursing school, I withdrew from (if I didn’t withdraw the clinical instructor would have failed me)? Not sure. Thank you for story and for this website.

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    • Jon Haws

      Jon Haws

      Mimi,

      Thanks for taking the time to read the article. First of all . . . don’t feel like a failure. Brush yourself off and move forward. If that means going back to school go back 100% . . . if you need some time off, don’t feel bad about that. It’s okay to need a little mental health break.

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  8. Lifeyang

    I couldn’t sleep and I typed how to get away from nursing school on Google and I was drawn to your site. I am glad that I did. In my case, it is reciprocal from your experience. I do great in school with test, always on dean list throughout my semester. I hated clinical. The instructors are rude and English being my second language, obviously I won’t be able to speak with them on fast pace, but they find it reason to fail us on clinical. That’s the reason I hated clinical, It is too much pressure to impress them with my skill.

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    • Jon Haws

      Jon Haws

      Hey there Lifeyang so sorry that you are going through that. I remember the sleepless nights very well myself. I honestly hope this post was able to provide you with some respite from the stress and some suggestions on dealing with it all . . . it’s tough! Please keep us posted on your success and decisions.

      -Jon

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  9. F.V.

    Hi Jon,

    I recently resigned from my nursing program. I’m questioning if I should have tough it out. Did I quit too soon? The teachers weren’t supportive at my school and I unfortunately had a teacher who thought I would be better at being a LVN than a RN. She made it her mission to find anything to write me up for and stressed me out so much that I made stupid mistakes that I normally don’t make which gave her things to write me up for. I dreaded coming into clinical because I felt I had to be perfect in everything I did or I would be written up. I talked to the other students and they said they make mistakes but they’re not getting written up. These teachers are nurses, but they show no compassion towards me. I am questioning if nursing is for me. I put so much time, money and energy into getting my nursing degree only to be pushed out by teachers who are mean and petty. I have enough hours to sit for the LVN test, but are there jobs out there for LVNs? I keep hearing and reading reports that LVNs are getting phased out. Why would these teachers tell me to become a LVN, when LVNs are being phased out? I hate the school and the teachers for not being supportive and targeting me. If these are the type of people I have to work around, I don’t think I want to work in the nursing field. I always felt I was a strong person, but being in this program has broken my spirit. Maybe this field isn’t for me afterall. .

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    • Jon Haws

      Jon Haws

      Please understand that while there is SO much in nursing and nursing education that needs to change . . . nursing school is NOTHING like real life nursing. I believe the field needs individuals who have struggled with the system and are vocal in order for change to occur.

      Remember. . . you went into nursing for a reason (whatever that is) don’t let people drive you out of the field if you still believe it is the right path for you.

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  10. Nicole

    Jon,
    I dropped out of nursing school yesterday and I needed to read this. I just could not do it anymore. I slept a total of 5 hours in one week, I was fighting with my husband and begging him to quit his career so that I could have more help. I lost 10 pounds this semester. I stopped working out. I don’t even shower on the weekends. I agree with you…i loved clinicals. I HATED the book work. I hated the fact that people can buy test banks and pass and I would stay up until 2 in the morning studying and still failed the test. I actually am considering coming back as well, but I need to take care of myself and be with my family. I needed to read this. I lost every ounce of motivation in me. If i am going to be a good nurse, I need to get in the right mental state. Again, thank you. I feel like you wrote this just for me……

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    • Jon Haws

      Jon Haws

      Nicole,

      Thanks so much for having the courage to share your story. Remember . . . life is a long journey. Dropping nursing school for a time does not mean the end of the world . . . or the end of your nursing journey. For me, I needed about a year to clear my head and feel “ready” to get back at it. I do not regret taking that time away. For me . . . it was the right thing.

      There is SO much that needs to change with the way nursing education is delivered. I know we can’t change it all, but I do hope that at NRSNG.com we are inspiring and providing the much needed support many students need.

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  11. Deana West

    Thank you Jon! This article and the tips were just what I needed to read! I am starting nursing school next Monday! God Bless

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  12. Nada

    Jon, I agree with ur 2nd tip/point about knowing everything before being a Nurse and that saddened me a lot before completing my nursing school. It was when I was doing the field work that I realised you really don’t need to be very competent before being on the ward but rather the floor job would teach u the job if only u love nursing. Am a Ghanaian and most Ghanaians enter into nursing because it’s one of the prestigious and lucrative profession here ,so people engage without really being prepared and loving the job and its compounding to a lot of health problems as well as disdaining the profession as a result of poor mental state, lack of interest,lucrativity etc. Although Ghanaians don’t just quit or defer courses at the university they complete and end up not being beneficial to the society in relation to their studied programme or become bad nuts in the system.Your article I think is a great source of inspiration and means of directing nursing students in holding on to successfull completion of Nursing School. Keep it up.

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  13. Rosanne

    Why doesnt my prior comment show. It was appropriate.

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  14. Rosanne

    I have to disagree with you on a few points. I have been an ER nurse/educator for 31 years. Not everyone hates nursing school. Only those who try to squeeze it into their busy lives. I loved it. Attended a diploma school . We had so much clinical. Followed case mother in OB.. We actually worked in ICU and ER , not shadow for a day.. my freshman class had 100 students. After three years we graduated 48. . We were prepared when we graduated. Also you dont get a life when you are in nursing school. These accelerated programs set people up for failure. . Nursing isnt something you can shorten and cram into 18 months because you have a degree .in something else.. There are no shortcuts if you are going to do it right. A lot of new grads are ill prepared. Both my daughters are nurses as well. They worked very little in school because i knew what it took. . School was their job.!. Boyfriends and parties didnt happen until they graduated and that is how they passed..So for those of you struggling i suggest you find a way to make nursing school your first priority not your second or third. Its not easy if you are a working parent etc. But you enlist help. Work part time or not at all. Move back in with parents etc. . It can be done but too many people are jumping into nursing because it is recession proof. I had a student the other day. Asked her what specialty interested her. Her answer . ” anywhere i dont have to work too hard”. This is not an easy profession. We work hard all day and everyday. So if you are looking for a cake job that pays well. U might not want to return to nursing school.

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    • Jon Haws

      Jon Haws

      I fear you might be missing my point. The entire point of this article is that I was in a poor mental state. Not because I wasn’t working hard, wasn’t taking school seriously, wasn’t focused, or didn’t want to be a nurse. Certainly the opposite.

      # of parties I attended in nursing school: 0
      # of hours worked at a side job: 0
      # of outside hobbies: 0

      Nursing school was my life.

      The article is intended to provide tips and suggestions to nursing students that find themselves in a poor mental state and give them suggestions on how to avoid my fate.

      I struggle greatly with the mentality that . . “it was hard for me . . .so it should be hard for everyone” . . .

      As I said in the article. . . I do believe that nursing school should be complex as far as learning how to take care of sick individuals. However, to state that it should be hard just because it’s hard is insane in my mind.

      I feel that mindset is what drives nurses away from the field. If someone is struggling on the floor due to a terrible assignment we don’t run away and tell them to toughen up . . no . . we run to their side and provide support, comfort, and aid. We don’t watch them drown because “it’s supposed to be hard”.

      I agree 100% with you in that nursing is a complicated profession. I am proud to be a nurse, hence, starting a blog that reaches millions of nurses and nursing students a month.

      I can assure you that a nurse that would seek “anywhere I don’t have to work too hard” is not part of the NRSNG.com community. That is not what we stand for AT ALL.

      This post is intended to provide help to those that feel overwhelmed and want to quit. There are options for them and it does not mean they aren’t cut out for nursing. If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of your patients.

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      • Stephanie

        Mr. Haws,

        THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR STANDING UP FOR US NURSING STUDENTS!! What a well written and thoughtful response. I thank God for pple like you who share the mentality of aiding nurses in need versus “telling them to toughen up.” Nurses must absolutely stick together and work as a team. It’s not for us, it’s for our patients, dadgum it! Thanks again! God bless and take care!:)

      • Jon Haws

        Jon Haws

        Stephanie . . .thanks so much for taking the time to reach out and thank us! It really means so much to hear our message is resonating with students all around the world.

        Please keep us updated on your success.

        -Jon RN CCRN

  15. Rub

    Hi the same thing happened to me i quit nursing school during the first semester but I left the door opened, I completed a remediation plan and I wasn’t sure if i was going to come back but I finally made up my mind about returning to nursing school. I have finished my second semester and moving on to third semester. I would try to implement those suggestions you gave us. I really hope I make it this time. I decided to drop school but i wasn’t failing i was passing because i felt nursing was not for me. My biggest problem is that When i study i want to know everything. That is my biggest obsession. I want to know what every single thing means. And if i dont know it i get frustrated. Another thing about me is i want to get perfect grades i have always get perfect grades in my life all As and in nursing school i got my fist C grade. I really want to do this. Thank you for your story. It will encourage me to know that you can make it after quitting the first time.

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    • Jon Haws

      Jon Haws

      Thanks for sharing your story. I think many of us nurses get so caught up wanting perfect grades. It can really take a toll.

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      • Rub

        Hey jon,

        I made it. I finished nursing school and i just passed my nclex. Im now looking for a job. Your experience helped me keep going. Thank you so much for sharing that experience that help others to persevere in this profession. Keep doing what you’re doing.

        Thanks a lot

      • NRSNG Support

        Congrats! We are so glad to have helped you!

    • Rub

      Now i habe a job. Thanks for everything

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